External Mysql Connections

[Michael Pratt]

Im about to pull what little hair I have left out.  I am trying to connect to a mysql database from 
my internal network. 

Using Mandrake 10 and what ever version of MySQL it comes with.

I can connect locally to the database but from another machine forget it. I have assigned the Grant 
all to the user and even from all hosts.  

I read somewhere that by default networking is desabled in Mysql. I was trying to find the my.cnf 
but all I have is my-small medium and large.cnf's  

can someone shed some light on this?

Thanks!

Mike